I had this morbid thought at midday on my way to lunch. It felt weird and uncomfortable but the thought lingered for quite a while.
So there was this young man in his polished suit, I imagined him dead. The old man taking the stairs with a cup in his hand, the young girl outside the building donned in her summer dress, the old lady sitting on a bench having her meal under the sun-I imagined each one of them, lying in a coffin.
I don’t’ mean to sound scary, rude, demeaning or any of that. Instead, I want you to take this in a positive light.
This absurd thought actually shifts a person’s perspective. When you begin to look at everyone you meet as capable of fading and vanishing, like they’re going to be gone anytime soon, it gives you a combined feeling of detachment and attachment.
Imagine the people who’ve hurt you, disappointed you, or caused you so much anger and pain. Suddenly you’ll realize it’s pointless to hold a grudge against them. It’s worthless to carry a lifelong hurt, coz’ for some, a lifetime is not even long enough.
Then you carry your thoughts toward the people who matter to you, to those you surround yourself with every day and fail to even appreciate. Do you really see them and treat them the way you should? Have you said your “Thank You’s” enough number of times, comforted them or took more effort to make them smile, or make their day even better?
Pause for a while and notice the world and time passing you by. The people in it, all things living, breathing- all signs of life, including yourself. You too are not going to be here forever. So start living your life with a real sense of time- connected to it, and making it count.
There is no necessity to always be in a hurry or in a rush, to always be preoccupied or insanely busy. There are times and seasons for everything. Even God rested on the seventh day in the great story of Creation. Miracle after miracle, God took the time to admire everything. He allowed Himself to notice, to feel. He was pleased. He felt satisfied.
On to us, our main job is to celebrate each day. To hope, to love and be grateful for all things. To be deliberate and intentional in how we use the greatest resource we ever have.
Deliberate, because we need to be thoughtful.
Intentional, because we need to be purposeful.
Like how? In our choices, our actions, our thoughts, our words, and our plans, that we may always desire to affect the lives of others and the entire world in ways that are good. To leave a legacy and a fine one at that.
Of course, we are allowed to feel the bad even the worst- but dwelling on these is entirely up to us. Hearts can break but that’s why we were given a sense of reason. Our brains literally placed above our hearts so we know that we have the power to choose. Whatever is genuinely good for us doesn’t harm anyone. At the end of the day, all things should be in sync. All should harmonize.
Life is fragile, like a holding a newborn baby in your hands. And people- – yes, they slip away. You’ll realize that yesterday isn’t a long time ago, and getting old can hardly be noticed till body aches, blurred vision and gray hair catch up with you. It’s true what they say, no one gets out of this life, alive.
So make the most of what you have. Embrace your greatest gifts. Embrace life. Embrace time. Embrace people. Embrace yourself.
The meaning of one’s life is not to be discovered. It is to be defined. It’s up to you to determine yours.