The subtle mistake is coming from a place of lack.
Getting what you want or achieving your goals is like chasing happiness. It becomes elusive when you run after it.
But when you start with “knowing and believing that you already have it”, it becomes possible to create. Think about a seed finally realizing its capacity to grow into a tree.
Framing our wants positively is important too.
I still hear most people unconsciously focusing on what they don’t want.
“I don’t want to die with a mountain of debt.”
‘I don’t want to lose my job.”
“I don’t want to be alone.”
These may sound harmless but if you don’t want this or that, what do you want?
To be financially independent?
To be so good in your job?
To be supportive and nourishing in your relationships?
When you use statements that clarify what you want, it turns into something you can act on. You are moving towards something instead of running away from something. Remember, where your focus goes, your energy flows.
ACT. This is the most obvious clue to translate your desires into reality.
Things don’t magically appear in front of us.
Goals don’t materialize overnight.
When we focus on our big goals, most of us either get lost in daydreaming or think, “Who am I kidding? This isn’t possible at all!”
Well, self-fulfilling prophecies like that could work, just not in your favor.
Break it into pieces. That’s how we can tackle a goal we perceive to be huge.
Think about one thing that you can do today that supports your goal. Using the above examples you could:
- Think of an expense you can cut down or eliminate, then add that available money to pay off debts.
- Learn something that relates to your role and practice it.
- Put your phone down. Listen and be present when a loved one talks to you.
These may seem like small steps, but if you look closer, as you do them you’re already becoming the person you desired you would. The journey IS the destination.
Lastly, celebrate your wins, even the small ones.
Include each win on your “Wins-List” or write about it in your journal.
Why? Because these are your trophies. They are proof and reminders that if you did it once, you can do it again. You can replicate your wins.
Most people ignore daily achievements, but it’s the daily things that get you to where you want to be. As you go along, your confidence grows. You become more willing and able to take further shots in life.
When celebrating your wins, remember to include your “squad” or “people” too. They could be your loved ones, teammates, or friends.
There’s something so satisfying when you share victories with people who fully support you.
- It gives room for positive reinforcements;
- It gives an opportunity to acknowledge, and thank the people who’ve been with you the whole way through.
Trust above helps you today. Create a wonderful life.