A mentor once said, “Focus on this. One life, one person at a time. If you can create an impact, a change like that, that’s all that matters”.  #sundaewrites

 

 

Bored.

Burdened.

If you have felt these lately, you are not alone. A  million of us share the same road.

In my small circle of friends, at least half of us feel like life is a drag- a heavy load you need to carry with you wherever you want to go. Each step lands your foot in a mud.  You’ve got to pull your leg a little harder every time so you get to move.  If at all, you get to move.

Why do we have days like these? Why can’t we always feel happy and stay like that all year long?

While we all know that happiness is a decision you make for yourself, it’s easier said than done, or perhaps we don’t really know what that means or what it really takes.

All the successful people you’ve known were once upon a time nobodies. They started small. They struggled but kept on because they were driven by something that’s far greater than themselves. Something noble and beautiful. Something they desire to create not only for themselves but for the world, even if that world only meant a handful of people that they deeply care about. So in time, they’ve overcome the hurdles and eventually became great- famous, wealthy, powerful.

Then it happens. Success made these same people get so engrossed on fame, wealth, and power. The drive is now to maintain the status quo or exceed the same. So, they get to work to produce more success-  toil day in and day out that it becomes an obligation they believe they owe to themselves.

Is that bad? Not necessarily. But weak motivations won’t hold you up forever.  You see, the moment our focus change, we forget about why we do what we do in the first place. Our great WHY vanishes into thin air.

 

photo credits: Jon Tyson
photo credit: Jon Tyson

 

Take for example this writing.  I don’t know how many people will get to read this and how many of those who read it actually cares.  Despite the nagging desire to know, I choose to resist it. One of my mentors actually said, even the greatest writers still have that fear of rejection- you just have to deal with it. Then she spilled out this nugget of wisdom that up to now continues to motivate me. “Focus on this. One life, one person at a time. If you can create an impact, a change like that, that’s all that matters”.  So whenever I scribble something on a notepad or strike letters on my keyboard, I think about that one person that might find these words useful. Then the writing stops being an obligation. It now becomes an opportunity. No longer a drag rather, a source of delight.

Whenever you feel battered in life, one of the ways that can heal you is through your ability to receive love. Most “strong” people forget about that. Does it come from ego or pride? Maybe.

Regardless, you need to break that wall and let love seep through. You’ll always be a child. Even strong muscles or gray hairs cannot change that.  You need love. Don’t be too proud to receive it.

Boredom. Burden. These are real, but you deserve better.

Embrace your great WHY and open up your heart for Love.

 

photo credit: ben white
photo credit: ben white

 

Question:

Have you taken a step back at one point in life to just reevaluate things? To remind yourself again why you do what you do? What did this “pause” reveal about yourself and the life you pursue? I care about your thoughts. Share them here.

 

That day when you just suddenly begin to question your circumstances.

Why am I here?

Is this what I’m supposed to do?

For how long?

Is this all?

And then what?

Have you ever been there?

I woke up feeling uninspired one Tuesday- my focus narrowing on the normality of life:

same job

same route from home to work, and back

the usual concerns

the usual complaints

monotonous tasks

predictable outcomes

It’s like ordering food from your favorite fast food chain.  You get to buy a different combo meal every time or try out different combinations, but it’s all coming from the same menu. You already know what’s there and what you can get.  No surprises. Nothing excitingly fresh.  It’s plain. It’s dull.

Conclusion:  Sameness leads to boredom.  Boredom consumes passion.

Should you be alarmed? Yes!  I remember a quote from the book Tuesdays with Morrie saying,

“When you’re in bed, you’re dead”.   Years ago,  this quote freed me from the trappings I’ve put myself in, and then again, it’s freeing me now.

Grass not watered on will wither and die. Like every tree that needs to bear good fruit so it’s not cut down and thrown into the fire (read: Matthew 7:19), we ought to do the same. We have to bear fruit, not only once, but through all seasons as long as there is life. To blossom is a divine call and it is a personal responsibility.

There is no end to what you can possibly do or accomplish, no limits for you to get better, no closed doors for growth and progress.  This is exactly the key.  When boredom strikes and stagnation knocks at your doorstep, open the door but don’t let it in.  Fight back and defend your territory. How? Create a brand new opportunity or get better at an existing one.

Whatever you choose, you need to have something to accomplish, something to push you out of your limits,

out of your comfort zone,

out of the ordinary!

That way you’re constantly experiencing, contributing, growing and truly living.

Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity. Take it from Albert Einstein.  So if you want a better ending, a fruitful and exciting existence, do something different, or do something differently.  Either way, you will win.

I know it’s not gonna be easy, and frankly, it never will be.  Everything around you is going to change, the world will keep on revolving even if you choose to stop, or pause or sit quietly in one corner.  Life will not wait for you.  It will run its course the way it is destined to, and so should you!

If you’re not arriving at anything significant yet, that’s good news. That means there’s room for creating or achieving one. Don’t limit yourself for the simple reason that: You’re not meant to live in a box. That was not the plan.

As to how my Tuesday ended, I said yes to an invitation to do something I haven’t done before and totally out of my comfort zone.

We get better over time and we should!  We learn as we go. Remember that talents and gifts not multiplied will be taken away (refer to Matthew 25:14-30, The Parable of the Talents). If you really treasure what you have been given, you will use it for good and use it to bless the people around you. That way your hands, your heart, and your mind don’t become idle. And as you go along you’ll get to discover and create a purpose that’s far bigger than you!