Ride It Out

We have our highs and lows and sometimes we find it difficult to handle both.

Yes, you heard me. There will be days when you’d feel like you’re not getting it. You feel slow, so behind, down, uninspired, even clumsy, and unsteady.  There will be days when you’d doubt yourself and your capacity, question your plans, and beliefs, or how you walk on this journey called life. Yes, the struggle is real. We have our highs and lows and sometimes we find it difficult to handle both.

In this amazing journey that we all share, it’s without a doubt that all of us are eternal students of a real-life university.  We stumble and make mistakes, and at times we reap small wins and victories too. It’s an exciting experience, at least, if you perceive it that way.

You see, we see the world through lenses that we choose to put on.  Some of us wear a pair of blurry ones, some too clear, and some are just about right. What do I mean?

I have met a lot of people who are either too negative or too optimistic.  I don’t judge, I’d tell you that. I’d take the person as he is and get to know him as time unfolds.  Talk about being a realist.

I wasn’t born a realist, but I think I became one as I navigated my way through pleasant and unpleasantness experiences.  If you’ve read past articles that I wrote, ( https://sundaewrites.com/it-all-burned-down-to-the-ground/ , https://sundaewrites.com/the-bitter-pill/, https://sundaewrites.com/make-room/, https://sundaewrites.com/closed-doors/),  I’ve shared an empowering question that most of us fail or fear to ask ourselves. The question of “What Now?”.

This sort of examination is so freeing and empowering as it gives us the courage to let go of what used to be, what we had or have lost in the past, and opens our eyes to the present along with the possibilities that are out there, things that we can hope for and realize. This brings me back to the first three words you’ve read in this piece- “Ride it out”.

Let these words sink in.  Yes, days can be difficult sometimes, just like the weather. But imagine yourself as water making your way through a river. Surely you will hit rocks but still, you’d flow your way around it. You go on and on, to wherever your strength could take you. 

Next time when you feel like you’re down and weak, don’t feel too bad about it. Don’t sulk in tears. If you must, allow yourself to cry or frown. Feel the feeling, experience it, but not for long. At one point you have to tell yourself, “That’s enough”. You have to pick yourself up and move on.  Others say, “Fake it ‘till you make it”,  but I say, “Fake it ‘till you BE it.- all in a positive context.  Emotion follows motion. Smile and leap instead of walk.  Trust me, you’ll be surprised by how different you’d start to feel.

Light up my friend. Never let a gloomy day or a losing moment, weigh you down too much or too long. It happens to everyone even to the best of the best. Life is too short to let yourself get stuck in that one moment forever. Again I say, ride it out!


Stranded

Life will not wait for you.  It will run its course the way it is destined to, and so should you!

That day when you just suddenly begin to question your circumstances.

Why am I here?

Is this what I’m supposed to do?

For how long?

Is this all?

And then what?

Have you ever been there?

I woke up feeling uninspired one Tuesday- my focus narrowing on the normality of life:

same job

same route from home to work, and back

the usual concerns

the usual complaints

monotonous tasks

predictable outcomes

It’s like ordering food from your favorite fast food chain.  You get to buy a different combo meal every time or try out different combinations, but it’s all coming from the same menu. You already know what’s there and what you can get.  No surprises. Nothing excitingly fresh.  It’s plain. It’s dull.

Conclusion:  Sameness leads to boredom.  Boredom consumes passion.

Should you be alarmed? Yes!  I remember a quote from the book Tuesdays with Morrie saying,

“When you’re in bed, you’re dead”.   Years ago,  this quote freed me from the trappings I’ve put myself in, and then again, it’s freeing me now.

Grass not watered on will wither and die. Like every tree that needs to bear good fruit so it’s not cut down and thrown into the fire (read: Matthew 7:19), we ought to do the same. We have to bear fruit, not only once, but through all seasons as long as there is life. To blossom is a divine call and it is a personal responsibility.

There is no end to what you can possibly do or accomplish, no limits for you to get better, no closed doors for growth and progress.  This is exactly the key.  When boredom strikes and stagnation knocks at your doorstep, open the door but don’t let it in.  Fight back and defend your territory. How? Create a brand new opportunity or get better at an existing one.

Whatever you choose, you need to have something to accomplish, something to push you out of your limits,

out of your comfort zone,

out of the ordinary!

That way you’re constantly experiencing, contributing, growing and truly living.

Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity. Take it from Albert Einstein.  So if you want a better ending, a fruitful and exciting existence, do something different, or do something differently.  Either way, you will win.

I know it’s not gonna be easy, and frankly, it never will be.  Everything around you is going to change, the world will keep on revolving even if you choose to stop, or pause or sit quietly in one corner.  Life will not wait for you.  It will run its course the way it is destined to, and so should you!

If you’re not arriving at anything significant yet, that’s good news. That means there’s room for creating or achieving one. Don’t limit yourself for the simple reason that: You’re not meant to live in a box. That was not the plan.

As to how my Tuesday ended, I said yes to an invitation to do something I haven’t done before and totally out of my comfort zone.

We get better over time and we should!  We learn as we go. Remember that talents and gifts not multiplied will be taken away (refer to Matthew 25:14-30, The Parable of the Talents). If you really treasure what you have been given, you will use it for good and use it to bless the people around you. That way your hands, your heart, and your mind don’t become idle. And as you go along you’ll get to discover and create a purpose that’s far bigger than you!

The Bitter Pill

“Your mind and your heart is a battlefield.  You decide what wins, and who wins.”#sundaewrites

Disappointment.  It depletes your energy. It saps your motivation. It makes you think and do a lot of crazy things you wouldn’t have thought or done if you were in your happy state.

Remember the times you took out on people who have nothing to do with what you’re going through or the times when you’ve thrown in the towel and frustratingly exclaimed, “It’s over”? Crazy. Why? Coz often times we make decisions in the heat of the moment, in the height of our feelings.

Everyone has had experienced the weight of being let down. I have my fair share of it in different aspects of life- relationships, faith, service, work, even in the things that I do out of passion- music, and writing.  There would be people who would admire what you have or have accomplished but they never got to see the hard work you’ve put into it.  There would be times when your efforts are valued less, or go by unnoticed.  There would be moments when it would feel like, you’re hardly getting there not getting closer to your dreams or inching forward to what you want to accomplish.

Mind you, it’s tough. But that’s just how it is.  Yesterday you were happy, today you are sad, and tomorrow, you might find hope. The day after that you may feel invincible, the next day, you look at yourself in the mirror and say “What a total loser”.  Sometimes you may experience all these in one single day.  Take for example the old man who worries about money one morning, and wins the lotto in the evening. Just like that.  Or the day when you had a happy get together with friends, just to come home to news of a loved one’s death. Yes, just like that.

One struggling woman shared this beautiful “pick-me-up” kind of reminder that was passed on to her by her grandmother. It says, “Do your best with what’s in front of you and leave the rest to the powers above you”. Beautiful, sensible, comforting.  Indeed, we can only focus on one moment at a time. While the larger world moves around us at the very same instant, we can do something with what’s right before us.  After all, you’re only certain about this time Now, and not the time after that.

Our mind is a battlefield.  Oftentimes we already know what to do but it seems difficult to point ourselves in that direction.  That’s because we insist for things to happen the way it “supposed to”.  We find it hard to let go or we spend too much time asking “Why” and turn our back on the more important and liberating question of, “What now?”.   We’re stubborn like that, and we’re scared to move on.

Our heart is a battlefield too.  We should always guard and defend it from enemy invasion.  One thing I’m learning now is to cry my heart out to God about battles that I couldn’t defeat,  struggles that many people don’t know.  I always used to fix things my way. But not this time, not anymore.  When I surrender everything else to the powers above me, the weight on my shoulders is gone,  my heart is healed, my mind is clear. Then I can focus on what I can do best to what’s in front of me.  When frustration comes again, any time of day or any moment now, I just repeat this thought in my head, “Just do what you can now, tomorrow is another day”.

Hope this helps you get through your seemingly darkest days.  Always remember that you are not alone. There is still so much love in the world and so much love you can give to yourself.